How To Stop Sabotaging Your Life, Something We All Do Everyday

There is one thing that we all do, whether we are willing to admit it or not, that we shouldn’t do and it is something that even I am guilty of. We all want to make ourselves better and to make our lives better, but too often we define “better” by comparing ourselves to others. We tend to look at other people and tell ourselves that somehow, that other person, is better, for whatever reason. Some do it more often than others, but we have all done it. We try to convince ourselves that we need to keep up with other people. We tell ourselves, “I want a big house like that guy”, or “I want to be famous like that person”.

What Happens When We Compare

What happens when asking ourselves these questions? What do we do to the mind and the psyche when we tell ourselves this? And what happens when we become obsessed with our own deficiencies, as opposed to the things we are really good and efficient at?

Instead of looking at another man or a woman and comparing ourselves to them, telling ourselves “I’m not that” and “I’m not as good as him or her”, why don’t we look at our own achievements and accomplishments? This type of thinking and comparing ourselves to others does nothing but cause us pain through envy and jealousy.

Let me put this into perspective for you, because it is something that we do every single day. We are only human after all. We do it when we see an ad in a magazine or when we are on social media.

Looking In On Ourselves

Instead of comparing ourselves to others that we see on the street, in magazines, television or social media, take a look at yourself in the mirror and identify the progress that you’ve made. Learn to recognize your accomplishments and achievements and allow yourself to be proud of the things you’ve done. The reality is that when you compare yourself to others, there is a chance you are comparing your beginning to somebody else’s middle or end. Are you comparing yourself to somebody who has been in the gym for their whole life, yet you are just starting out on your first training program?

Be you, be authentic and be transparent. Serve others unconditionally and live a more simplistic life. Many people chase the things that they don’t have and often these things are items and materialistic things that we don’t need. We keep buying more stuff because we think that it will make us better and make us happier, yet almost right away we are wanting the next thing and then the next. Understand why you are doing this, understand why you are constantly comparing yourself to others and telling yourself you are deficient in some way so that you can be truly happy and proud of yourself for being you.